Learn how parenting plan mediation works and why slowing down creates better outcomes for kids. Insights from the Artful Divorce podcast.
Why Parenting Plans Deserve More Thought Than a Calendar
In this episode of Artful Divorce, family law attorney John Kinney sits down with Omaha therapist and mediator Kelly Gering to unpack why parenting plans are often rushed — and why that rush creates long-term problems for families.
Parents often want to “just get it done.” But as Kelly explains, mediation isn’t about speed — it’s about creating a durable, child-centered plan that can survive real life.
“My mindset is always go slow to get fast,” says Kelly. “Once you understand the ‘why,’ the process actually moves faster — and the plan lasts.”
How Parenting Plan Mediation Works
Kelly describes how parents typically come into mediation through Douglas County Conciliation Court or via attorney referral across Omaha and surrounding counties.
The process begins with separate intake sessions, which often raise questions for parents. John notes that clients sometimes feel uneasy meeting alone with a mediator, but Kelly explains these meetings are critical for:
- identifying power dynamics
- ensuring emotional and physical safety
- helping parents understand mediation before problem-solving begins
Mediation isn’t about taking sides — it’s about creating a space where parents can work together for their children.
What Mediators Watch for Early
Kelly emphasizes that parents in divorce are often overwhelmed, emotional, and not thinking long-term. Her role is to:
- slow the process down
- uncover what actually matters to each parent
- prevent decisions driven by anger, fear, or exhaustion
When one parent shuts down or tries to dominate, she pauses the process, restructures sessions, or separates parties to protect fairness.
Parenting Schedules: Routine Beats Perfection
John and Kelly discuss how parenting schedules have evolved over time, with courts increasingly supporting meaningful time with both parents.
They highlight three common schedules:
- week-on/week-off
- 5-5-2-2
- 2-2-3
Kelly stresses that predictability matters more than creativity. Too many exceptions or “special rules” confuse kids and increase conflict.
Holidays, Decision-Making, and Reality Checks
Holidays are emotional — especially the first year after divorce. Kelly encourages parents to build clear, fallback holiday schedules while allowing flexibility when communication is healthy.
They also discuss joint legal custody challenges, especially around medical and educational decisions. Kelly often brings in outside professionals to help parents break stalemates rather than defaulting to court.
The Core Message: Stay in Control
John and Kelly agree on one central truth:
Courts use blunt tools. Mediation allows for thoughtful solutions.
When parents stay engaged in mediation, they retain control over their children’s lives — instead of handing decisions to a judge who doesn’t know their family.
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Disclaimer: This blog summarizes general information from the Artful Divorce podcast and is not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney for guidance specific to your situation.
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The Artful Divorce Podcast is hosted by family law attorney John Kinney, based in Omaha, Nebraska. Each episode offers practical insights to help you navigate the divorce process with greater clarity. Whether you’re just beginning or deep in separation process, we’re here to help you move forward, thoughtfully and informed. This content is for general informational purposes and is not legal advice. For guidance specific to your situation, consult a licensed attorney in your area.